Nothing is more important in the development of a relationship than the use of a person’s name, as there are few things in life that are more personal. If you want to improve your ability to remember names, you must first sell yourself on the importance of doing it. Your progress in remembering names, learning to ski or developing any other skill will depend largely on how strong you desire to do it. The best way to increase your desire to remember names is by constantly reminding yourself that this one skill above all others will...

• Help you in your business and career.
• Help you win friends and influence people.
• Make your social networking easier and more enjoyable.
• Help you create a better client experience.
• Turn you into a hub and a connector.
• Prevent embarrassment at not recalling names or being able to properly introduce people.
• Enhance your popularity and your reputation.
• Help you show genuine interest in others.

I've tried countless memory techniques to remember names, from vivid word associations to writing everything down. And the best one I've come across is one I devised for myself. I call it the ALPHA Technique. It's simple, it's quick and it’s built on the mother of all memory - repetition.

A - Ask. Make the first move. Be proactive. The more you introduce yourself, the more people will tell you their names.

L - Listen. Most names are forgotten in the first few seconds, either because you're nervous or you’re concentrating on what witty, wonderful or profound thing you’re going to say next. Either way, you end up not hearing their name properly in the first place. So focus on it, pay attention, watch it drop off their lips and give it due care and consideration. If it’s an unusual name, or you don’t hear it properly, ask for it again. They’re not going to say, ‘Sorry, I told you once!’

P – Parrot. These wonderful animals do what? Yes, they repeat things. So as soon as you hear someone's name, say it back to them. ‘John, lovely to meet you.’ It’s much harder to forget a name after it’s come out of your own mouth.

H – Hook. Find some hook, some physical characteristic, something about them, their face, hair, features or even clothes that you can hook to the name. The stronger the hook, the more chance there is that you’ll remember them.

A – Affirm. Stop saying that you’re no good with names, that you can never remember anything and that you’ve got a terrible memory. That’s negative, hindering thinking. Cultivate a positive attitude with names. Start saying to people that you’re improving with names, that you’re making a real effort with names, that you’re getting better all the time with names. Before you know it, you’ll be a names champion!

Make it a pledge that you begin really concentrating with names. Resolve to become known for your memory with names, and a whole world of great networking, opportunities, friendships and influence will open up to you. Happy remembering, and happy business building!